How do I choose the right size bondage gear?

Why Size Matters (More Than You Think)

Too tight? You risk cutting off circulation and getting uncomfortable real fast. Too loose? Well, that kinda defeats the whole purpose, doesn’t it? The goal is to find gear that feels secure without being restrictive—so you’re focused on the fun, not fumbling with adjustments every few minutes.

How to Measure for Bondage Gear

Wrist & Ankle Cuffs

The trick here is to measure around the widest part of your wrist or ankle with a flexible tape measure (or even a piece of string if you’re in a pinch). Most cuffs come with adjustable straps, so you just need to make sure your measurements fall within the size range. If you're unsure, go for something with multiple buckle holes or Velcro—it’s always good to have a little wiggle room.

Collars

For collars, wrap a tape measure around your neck, making sure it’s snug but not restrictive. You should be able to slip one or two fingers underneath comfortably—because, let’s be real, breathing is important. Adjustable collars are usually the best option since they give you more flexibility.

Spreader Bars

This one depends on how much distance you’re comfortable with. Measure the space between your wrists or ankles when they’re spread to your ideal width, and pick a bar that matches. If you’re not sure, go for an adjustable spreader bar so you can experiment with different positions.

Bondage Ropes

Ropes come in different lengths and thicknesses, and what you need depends on how you plan to use them. A good starter length is anywhere from 10 to 15 feet—plenty for simple ties. If you’re feeling adventurous, 20 to 30 feet gives you more creative freedom. Thicker ropes are usually more comfortable, especially if you’re just starting out, while thinner ones create more pressure (which some people prefer).

Prioritize Comfort (Because It’s Supposed to Feel Good)

If you’re new to bondage, start with softer materials—padded cuffs, fabric restraints, or anything adjustable. Once you get more comfortable, you can experiment with leather, metal, or more advanced gear. The key is to go at your own pace and choose what feels good for you.

Do Your Homework Before Buying

Not all bondage gear is created equal, and the last thing you want is to end up with something that doesn’t fit right. Read product descriptions carefully, check sizing details, and—most importantly—go through reviews. Other buyers (especially women) often leave insights about fit, comfort, and quality that can save you from a bad purchase.

Talk to Your Partner

Bondage is all about trust, and that starts with open communication. Talk with your partner about what you’re both comfortable with, what kind of gear you want to use, and how tight or loose things should be. The more you discuss it, the better the experience will be.

A Few Quick Safety Tips

Not too tight. Your gear should be snug but never cutting off circulation. A quick test? Press on the skin—if the color doesn’t bounce back right away, loosen up.
Check in regularly. It’s always a good idea to ask how your partner is feeling and make adjustments as needed.
Easy release is a must. Velcro, quick-release buckles, or anything you can remove fast should be your go-to. No one wants to struggle with locks in the heat of the moment.

Final Thoughts

The right bondage gear should fit well, feel comfortable, and enhance your experience—not get in the way of it. Take a few quick measurements, start with adjustable options, and always check reviews before buying. Most importantly, communicate with your partner so you’re both in sync.